Myths and Realities about Fostering

Myths

Reality

People who are single can’t become foster parents.

Yes you can! We have single parents fostering now.

If parents are both working, they can’t become foster parents.

Yes you can! We have many foster families where both parents work. However, there may be some cases where a particular child who needs consistent care can’t be placed with them.

If you have a history of mental health problems, such as depression, you can’t become a foster parent.

Each situation is assessed at the time of your application to foster. People with a history of mental health problems are not ruled out just because of that – other factors come into consideration.

If you’ve had any contact with the child welfare system – even if you were yourself previously in foster care – you can’t be a foster parent.

Again, each situation is assessed during the application process. Even if you were previously investigated by the agency, depending on the circumstances, you may still be able to become a foster parent.

If you’ve never had children of your own, you can’t become a foster parent.

Yes, you can! It does help to have some experience working with children but people who haven’t parented their own children can be excellent foster parents.

If you are LGBTQ+, you can’t be a foster parent.

Yes, you can! Diversity and inclusion are important values in our agency, and LGBTQ+ foster parents are welcomed.

All the children who are placed with foster parents are very difficult and disruptive.

The children placed in foster care have experienced trauma and loss. Sometimes they are not able to talk about what they need so it show in their behaviours. Foster parents get training and ongoing support to help them support the children in their homes.

Once you are a foster parent, there is little or no support for you.

Not true! You will be assigned a Resource Worker who will support you. You are also eligible for the agency’s Employee Assistance Program which provides access to services related to work, health and life concerns.  

If you are Aboriginal or from a culture or background that makes you a minority in Canada, you can’t become a foster parent.

Yes, you can! In fact, we seek to match children to foster homes with similar backgrounds. Since our client population is very diverse, we need a diverse group of foster parents as well.

Most of the children coming into foster care are babies.

Children come into foster care at all ages, and the numbers are constantly fluctuating. Sometimes we do have many babies, other times we have more teens than any other age group.

Being a foster parent is very expensive, you have to pay for a lot of things out of your own pocket.

Foster parents are paid a daily board rate and funding for items such as clothing and school supplies.


Some things that are TRUE:

  • You do need to be able to speak English well enough to communicate with Family and Children’s Services employees.
  • Most children who come into foster care return to their families after a brief or longer period of time. It can be tough to say good-bye to a child you have been caring for. Your Resource Worker will support you and your family during this transition.
  • If you are going through some challenging times in your family life, we’d encourage you to wait until things settle down before applying to foster.